I’ve seen Mother’s Day Gift Guides floating around Pinterest and the blogging community for the past several months now. I thought about writing one, and even drafted one, but couldn’t get past a title. I’m generally long-winded so if I can’t even get past the title page, I know there’s a problem.
That problem is I don’t want a gift for Mother’s Day. I don’t want jewelry, a pair of shoes, flowers, or gardening tools. I just want like… an entire HALF DAY to myself at the spa, after drinking my entire cup of coffee before it gets cold. When I come home, I want to find a sparkling clean house; Children that have been fed, and are in spectacularly darling moods. I want to play and cuddle for a few hours before bedtime, and then kiss them goodnight as a magical fairy (known as my husband) puts them to bed.
I know I’m not alone because every gift guide I’ve read begins with “What I REALLY want for Mother’s Day is…” and usually includes a hot shower, day at the spa, kid-free shopping trip, or something along those lines. My friend Andrea actually wrote an entire post of things she wants for Mother’s Day that doesn’t include a single gift that can be unwrapped! It’s all ways in which moms can relax. I’m not saying that the Mother’s Day Gift Guide’s are bad, and in fact, I’ve seen a few really good ones. A fellow twin mom, Amanda, wrote a really nice one that is exclusively items available on Amazon Prime, so if you need a last minute gift, check out her post.
I just kind of feel like if I don’t really want a gift, then I’m not going to write a gift guide. So if you feel the same way that I do, send this along to your hubby, and tell him which number (or numbers!) you want. Include phone numbers to local spas, because… #men.
Ideas For Mother’s Day To Help Mom Relax
- Sleep. Get up, get the kids breakfast, let her sleep in AND ALSO pick something else from below.
- A spa day: This could include a mani/pedi, facial, or a massage. If money isn’t an issue, I suggest all of the above.
- Breakfast in bed: Breakfast could be takeout from her favorite spot, or homemade. If the kids are under 10, please don’t let them help. Deliver the breakfast and then whisk the kids out of the house like a magical fairy.
- Shopping trip: mom’s don’t usually indulge in shopping that’s not for the kids, so you can buy a giftcard or take cash out with the stipulation that it MUST be spent on something she enjoys. Don’t forget that you have to watch the kids while she goes out!
- Girlfriends movie night: I saw this posted in a facebook group somewhere, and I won’t lie, I was extremely jealous. This group of ladies had a tradition where they got a hotel room and watched movies and relaxed all day and went to dinner at night. I mean… doesn’t that sound awesome????
- House cleaning service: This would be best coupled with something else, say a spa day! I would love, love, LOVE going to the spa and coming home to a sparkling house!!
- A day to herself: to do whatever her heart desires! Maybe she hates shopping and going to the spa; arrange a day where you can take care of things for the kids, and then tell her the day is hers. She can choose to relax in whatever way she wants.
Also, Don’t Feel Guilty
It’s Mother’s Day, we’re supposed to be embracing the fact that we’re mothers, and that means spending time with our kids! No. We do that every day, that’s why they call us mommy! You can spend a day away from your kids and not feel like a bad mom because of it.
Also… if you DON’T want this… that’s totally fine. Maybe you work 80 hours a week and feel like you never get enough time with your kids and that’s all you want. Maybe you don’t desire time to yourself. And maybe you really do want a new purse or some gardening tools. There are plenty of gift guides out there. Find one and send it to your hubby/children!
What do you TRULY want for Mother’s Day? I love hearing from you!
PS: If you are looking for other self-care activities check out more ideas here.